There are two boys around 12-13 years old at the playground today. Ian was excited to play with them at first, he held a stick and wanted to play fight pretend with them. Then the two boys started to use sticks to touch Ian’s head and body, even pretend to kick Ian. (Actually his foot touched Ian’s shoulder) I told Ian to say “stop, I don’t like it” if he didn’t feel comfortable. He did what I told him, but the two boys didn’t stop. I yelled at them saying “he didn’t like it, please stop what you are doing”, but the boys pretended that they didn’t understand and repeated “you like it? You like it?” I was pissed and lost my temper. I told Ian to walk away, but he just stood there and didn’t know what to do. I guess he was as angry as me, but more than that was scare.
I asked him how he felt when we were alone after getting home, he said he was sad when being bullied. Then I asked if he felt less scared when I yelled at the boys, he told me he was more afraid in that situation. Yes I forgot that he is only 3 and little, he probably doesn’t understand what’s going on but only remember his mommy was yelling at his friends at playground.
I hope he remembers the feeling of being bullied, and knows how to make it stop or walk away when the chaos or situation that he couldn’t control is happening. I hope that he remembers the feeling of being afraid, but also know it’s okay to be afraid and being sad. I hope he knows even someone treats him badly outside, but it was not his fault and his family loves him always.
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